1 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:13,560 Come in. 2 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:20,120 Hi. 3 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:24,500 I'm Ryan. I'm Alexia. Nice to meet you. Have a seat. Sure. 4 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:31,100 Okay, so let me just start out by telling you a little bit about myself 5 00:00:31,100 --> 00:00:32,100 practice here. 6 00:00:32,420 --> 00:00:39,020 I have been in psychology and therapy for, I've practiced in this office for 7 00:00:39,020 --> 00:00:40,020 last four years. 8 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:47,640 I mainly see a wide variety of clientele, basically dealing with 9 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:54,420 the people who have issues that are not that severe, but things that are 10 00:00:54,420 --> 00:00:59,260 stopping positive progress in their life. 11 00:00:59,460 --> 00:01:05,960 We just kind of talk through things. This first session that we'll do, we 12 00:01:05,960 --> 00:01:08,740 basically just kind of get a base foundation. 13 00:01:09,789 --> 00:01:12,770 of you and your life. 14 00:01:12,990 --> 00:01:18,970 And, you know, I want you to tell me some things that, I don't want to say 15 00:01:18,970 --> 00:01:24,030 problems you're having, but things that feel like problems to you. 16 00:01:25,030 --> 00:01:30,610 And then we'll kind of, I'll take some notes on it. Just so you know, Tamara, I 17 00:01:30,610 --> 00:01:33,270 film all of my patient sessions. 18 00:01:33,610 --> 00:01:39,470 It helps both of us really be able to, me to go back when I'm, Sometimes when 19 00:01:39,470 --> 00:01:42,670 you're in the middle of something, you know, you don't remember everything as 20 00:01:42,670 --> 00:01:49,230 well. And so when I'm at home and I'm able to kind of replay things and maybe 21 00:01:49,230 --> 00:01:52,510 pick up something that I didn't notice the first time. Yeah. 22 00:01:53,310 --> 00:01:58,290 And for you, sometimes, actually, I've had a few clients who actually will 23 00:01:58,290 --> 00:02:04,510 the videos from their previous sessions, and they see the difference from when 24 00:02:04,510 --> 00:02:06,370 they began the process. 25 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:10,539 So that's very helpful. That's what that's all about. 26 00:02:11,140 --> 00:02:17,820 Do you mind me asking how you found out about myself and the 27 00:02:17,820 --> 00:02:18,719 practice here? 28 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:23,040 I was actually just online Googling the best therapist we could find around 29 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,460 town. Okay. And your name showed up. Okay. 30 00:02:27,340 --> 00:02:28,339 That's great. 31 00:02:28,340 --> 00:02:30,800 Now, are you from, are you local here? 32 00:02:31,190 --> 00:02:33,210 Did you just move here, or are you from the area? 33 00:02:33,510 --> 00:02:36,050 Actually, my family and I just moved out here a year ago. 34 00:02:36,290 --> 00:02:38,930 Okay. Yeah. So we're pretty new to the city. 35 00:02:39,190 --> 00:02:41,390 Okay. Now, do you have siblings? 36 00:02:42,090 --> 00:02:44,230 I have one brother and one sister. 37 00:02:44,470 --> 00:02:46,370 Okay. Yeah, they're both older than me. 38 00:02:46,790 --> 00:02:49,990 Okay. Let me go ahead and take some notes here on this. 39 00:02:51,190 --> 00:02:55,510 Yeah. My sister, she's about 32. 40 00:02:55,750 --> 00:02:56,870 My daughter is 45. 41 00:02:58,370 --> 00:02:59,370 Okay. 42 00:02:59,820 --> 00:03:00,960 Okay, all right. 43 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,200 That's good to know. 44 00:03:04,340 --> 00:03:09,960 Hold on. Sorry about that. Let me just get organized here for a second. 45 00:03:10,500 --> 00:03:16,840 My secretary, she did a very poor job of organizing my 46 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,280 notes for me, but that's okay. That's something I'll talk to her about. 47 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:21,520 Okay. 48 00:03:22,830 --> 00:03:24,110 I already hear that. That's okay. 49 00:03:24,770 --> 00:03:26,150 Let me just put it over there. 50 00:03:26,950 --> 00:03:29,630 Okay, so you just moved to town a year ago? 51 00:03:29,870 --> 00:03:34,070 Just a year ago. Now, were you living in the state, or is it a completely 52 00:03:34,070 --> 00:03:37,930 different atmosphere and lifestyle to you than what you've been used to? 53 00:03:38,470 --> 00:03:41,750 So this is more the city. I mean, I came from Nevada. 54 00:03:42,210 --> 00:03:47,150 Okay. So it's more quieter, more calmer out there. Okay. So it's pretty 55 00:03:47,150 --> 00:03:50,090 different. Did you feel more... 56 00:03:51,230 --> 00:03:56,870 yourself and at ease there or in this new situation is that I guess some of 57 00:03:56,870 --> 00:04:01,210 problems that you've one of the reasons why you're here like is that kind of a 58 00:04:01,210 --> 00:04:05,650 new development since the move or is it issues that you've been having that you 59 00:04:05,650 --> 00:04:10,270 feel you've been having for a longer period of time yeah I definitely feel 60 00:04:10,860 --> 00:04:15,340 Reason why I'm here is because I moved out from like a completely new, I mean 61 00:04:15,340 --> 00:04:19,720 completely different kind of city. So it's a whole new change for me and I 62 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:22,660 like my parents have been treating me kind of differently ever since we moved 63 00:04:22,660 --> 00:04:25,440 here. Okay, you still live with your parents? Yeah. Okay. 64 00:04:26,540 --> 00:04:28,080 Okay, go ahead. Keep on coming with me. 65 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:32,880 Yeah, and I don't know. I just feel like... 66 00:04:33,230 --> 00:04:37,090 Ever since I moved here, like, I haven't had many friends out here. 67 00:04:37,350 --> 00:04:41,170 You know, I haven't had much people to talk to. And my parents, they're just 68 00:04:41,170 --> 00:04:42,530 always working all the time. 69 00:04:43,050 --> 00:04:44,050 Okay. 70 00:04:45,030 --> 00:04:50,650 So your friends that you have back where you were living, you still keep in 71 00:04:50,650 --> 00:04:51,650 touch with them? 72 00:04:51,790 --> 00:04:52,990 Yeah, sometimes we talk. 73 00:04:53,230 --> 00:04:55,710 Sometimes we call each other. But you don't, like, in person? 74 00:04:56,190 --> 00:04:57,690 No. No. Okay. 75 00:04:57,930 --> 00:04:59,050 Not since I moved here. 76 00:04:59,610 --> 00:05:00,610 Okay. 77 00:05:01,610 --> 00:05:02,610 Well. 78 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:09,320 I'm going to just go ahead, just before we get too much basic information here. 79 00:05:10,660 --> 00:05:17,360 Why don't you tell me what exactly it is 80 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:24,200 that is frustrating to you right now? Like, what is it that's the problem that 81 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:25,440 you're trying to get through? 82 00:05:26,180 --> 00:05:29,880 Well, I feel like my parents, they've been treating me like shit lately. 83 00:05:30,380 --> 00:05:31,980 Okay. You know, like... 84 00:05:32,490 --> 00:05:36,250 I feel like all my friends, they have it way better than me. They're going to 85 00:05:36,250 --> 00:05:37,250 better schools. 86 00:05:37,990 --> 00:05:40,570 I have one girlfriend that's even going to Harvard. 87 00:05:41,310 --> 00:05:45,730 And my parents don't even encourage me to go to schools like that. They don't 88 00:05:45,730 --> 00:05:46,890 care about where I'm going. 89 00:05:47,850 --> 00:05:53,610 They don't even bother to show up to meetings that my teachers would have. 90 00:05:54,090 --> 00:05:56,810 They wouldn't want to talk to them. They didn't want to show up. 91 00:05:58,980 --> 00:06:03,340 Just that I feel like they don't really care about my life at all. You know like 92 00:06:03,340 --> 00:06:09,880 I asked them to show up you know and tell me oh or not tell me but just like 93 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:15,120 least support me in school and They're just working so hard that they don't 94 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:20,500 notice like when I'm going what time I come home So I just want to know what I 95 00:06:20,500 --> 00:06:23,360 could do about that well, so 96 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:30,260 I think something you have to consider is it's very difficult to be an adult 97 00:06:30,260 --> 00:06:34,620 it comes with responsibilities, right? You, young, you don't really have any 98 00:06:34,620 --> 00:06:41,000 responsibilities. And so you kind of think that just my initial thought is a 99 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:47,640 little, you know, comes with youth, narcissism and the 100 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:52,560 sort of thought process that, well, everybody should. 101 00:06:53,490 --> 00:06:56,450 cater to everything that's going on in your world, in your life. 102 00:06:56,730 --> 00:07:00,930 And you need to realize that they have, like you said, jobs. They work very 103 00:07:00,930 --> 00:07:05,290 hard. If they weren't doing that, you know, they're trying to provide for you. 104 00:07:05,330 --> 00:07:08,550 You said you still live with them. I'm guessing they pay for your meals and 105 00:07:08,550 --> 00:07:09,469 sort of thing. 106 00:07:09,470 --> 00:07:15,750 So you need to realize that they're doing the best they can 107 00:07:15,750 --> 00:07:22,350 and that not everything in their world revolves around you. 108 00:07:22,910 --> 00:07:26,150 They can still love you when everything revolves around you. You know, they've 109 00:07:26,150 --> 00:07:27,410 got a lot on their table. 110 00:07:28,070 --> 00:07:34,170 So, I mean, your study, you said your friend got into Harvard. 111 00:07:34,490 --> 00:07:38,990 Yeah. Is that something you want to do? Is that an ambition or a desire of yours 112 00:07:38,990 --> 00:07:39,990 to be as? 113 00:07:40,220 --> 00:07:44,000 school like that like an ivy school or yeah i've always wanted to go to an ivy 114 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:47,340 league school ever since i started freshman year of high school like i've 115 00:07:47,340 --> 00:07:50,600 been wanting to go there and i even told my parents like hey what would you guys 116 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:55,380 think if i went to harvard or yale or stanford and they didn't even care 117 00:07:55,380 --> 00:07:59,100 just like as long as you go to school and then they drifted off the 118 00:07:59,100 --> 00:08:03,640 are you a are you a good student did you take your school seriously 119 00:08:04,820 --> 00:08:08,720 Yeah, I take my school seriously. I mean, I get good grades, but I go out 120 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:10,500 my girlfriends, like, almost every weekend. 121 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:13,360 But that doesn't mean I'm not taking it serious. 122 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:15,240 I mean, I have my own car, too. 123 00:08:15,900 --> 00:08:16,900 You have your own car? 124 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:19,900 Yeah. Is that from your parents? 125 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,660 Yeah, and you would never guess. It's super shitty. 126 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:26,820 It's old, and it's so, like, used up. It sucks. 127 00:08:27,260 --> 00:08:29,540 That's why I'm late all the time to everywhere. 128 00:08:30,220 --> 00:08:32,600 I'm late to school, which they don't even care about. 129 00:08:33,380 --> 00:08:34,500 Now I have a shitty car. 130 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:42,200 Right. Well, I think you'd be thankful that your parents got you a car at all. 131 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:50,220 I'm guessing blaming your car on being late to 132 00:08:50,220 --> 00:08:55,120 school makes no sense. Is it breaking down? If it was breaking down all the 133 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,220 time, I'm sure they'd get you a new car or they would fix it. 134 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:01,500 You saying that you're late, really all you're saying is that you're not making 135 00:09:01,500 --> 00:09:02,600 school a top priority. 136 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:08,280 And you're blaming the car, and you're blaming your parents for buying you the 137 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:15,240 car. Yeah, but it's like a 2019 Toyota car, and it's 2021. They 138 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:18,520 need to get with the program. It's not even funny. Like, that's so old. 139 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:27,120 Okay, well, listen, I'm not going to, obviously we're not going to debate. 140 00:09:27,710 --> 00:09:34,410 the status of your car or anything like that. But just so you know, most 141 00:09:34,410 --> 00:09:39,230 people in the world, a two -year -old vehicle is not that old. 142 00:09:39,670 --> 00:09:45,410 It's definitely not something that should be upsetting you or upsetting 143 00:09:45,410 --> 00:09:46,410 life. 144 00:09:46,770 --> 00:09:53,270 If you need to get to school and you need a car, like some people, I'm 145 00:09:53,270 --> 00:09:55,050 you have friends. Do all your friends have cars? 146 00:09:55,699 --> 00:09:59,840 Yeah, they have, like, nice femurs, they have nice families, everything like 147 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,600 that. It's like, why can't they just get me something like that instead of this 148 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:03,680 old piece of trash? 149 00:10:04,680 --> 00:10:09,220 Well, I don't think a car that's two years old is a piece of trash. 150 00:10:09,620 --> 00:10:10,620 2019. 151 00:10:12,140 --> 00:10:18,900 Like I said, I'm seeing some, and this obviously happens with younger people, 152 00:10:18,900 --> 00:10:21,160 entitlement. 153 00:10:24,110 --> 00:10:31,110 A sense that you're owed the best of everything all the time, and 154 00:10:31,110 --> 00:10:32,110 that's not realistic. 155 00:10:32,670 --> 00:10:37,750 Your parents giving you a car at all is a great thing. If they were buying you a 156 00:10:37,750 --> 00:10:43,690 brand new car, you know, it's not necessarily a realistic situation for, 157 00:10:43,690 --> 00:10:44,690 know, the real world. 158 00:10:44,890 --> 00:10:48,370 They're actually helping to prepare you for what you're going to be facing, 159 00:10:48,470 --> 00:10:52,330 which is obstacles and not always having exactly... 160 00:10:52,860 --> 00:10:57,560 everything you want at your fingertips all the time. You have to learn 161 00:10:57,580 --> 00:11:02,560 and you have to understand that work comes along with 162 00:11:02,560 --> 00:11:06,800 success and things that you want. 163 00:11:07,620 --> 00:11:09,180 I mean, I guess that's true. 164 00:11:09,380 --> 00:11:12,320 And then that's why I came in here, because I just couldn't figure that out 165 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:16,780 myself. I think they're just treating me like shit for, like, whatever reason 166 00:11:16,780 --> 00:11:17,619 they have. 167 00:11:17,620 --> 00:11:20,820 And do you feel, so you said you have two siblings? 168 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:25,840 Yeah. So how do you feel like they treat your siblings? 169 00:11:26,260 --> 00:11:29,980 They're super nice with them. They give them everything that they want, which is 170 00:11:29,980 --> 00:11:35,000 what I don't get. Like if they want a new car, like a brand new car, like a 171 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:39,140 newer car, like a 2021 car. Like my sister just got a new car. 172 00:11:39,940 --> 00:11:44,400 They would give that to her, no problem. But when I ask for something, they're 173 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:45,660 super blown out by it. 174 00:11:46,380 --> 00:11:49,680 I'm sorry, what's that? Super blown out by it. Like they don't want to do it. 175 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:51,080 They don't want to do anything for me. 176 00:11:52,869 --> 00:11:57,670 Well, I think that you need to realize that 177 00:11:57,670 --> 00:12:04,090 they're doing the best that they can. And there are times when they're going 178 00:12:04,090 --> 00:12:08,850 do things for, you know, a sibling that may seem like they don't do that for 179 00:12:08,850 --> 00:12:14,390 you, but that's part of psychologically getting caught up in the moment and not 180 00:12:14,390 --> 00:12:16,770 seeing the bigger picture. 181 00:12:17,230 --> 00:12:20,490 And the bigger picture is things probably... 182 00:12:21,180 --> 00:12:27,060 You know, there have been a lot of studies done. I did an entire thesis on 183 00:12:27,060 --> 00:12:33,040 family psychology and this sort of thing. And a lot of times, 184 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:38,780 everything is most of the time equal. 185 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:44,600 There's equal treatment. So if you are thinking to yourself that it's not 186 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:49,400 that it's biased towards, you know, siblings, then you're probably just. 187 00:12:49,660 --> 00:12:55,500 dealing with, again, that ego, which is just focusing on what's happening to you 188 00:12:55,500 --> 00:13:01,700 and how is what's happening to that person affecting me, right? And really, 189 00:13:01,700 --> 00:13:06,560 does not actually affect you. What happens to you affects you, but saying 190 00:13:06,560 --> 00:13:10,800 happens to somebody else is affecting you or affecting how you're viewing a 191 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:14,680 situation, again, that's one of the reasons, one of the things we'll talk 192 00:13:14,680 --> 00:13:17,960 through and through these sessions and get through is you have to... 193 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:19,800 Put the ego aside. 194 00:13:20,180 --> 00:13:26,820 Do you have a boyfriend or someone you're seeing? 195 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:29,920 No, I'm actually single right now. 196 00:13:30,180 --> 00:13:35,160 Okay. Yeah, my boyfriend and I broke up like months ago, like five months ago. 197 00:13:35,460 --> 00:13:36,740 Was that your decision or his? 198 00:13:37,860 --> 00:13:41,380 It was more my decision because he was super controlling. 199 00:13:42,940 --> 00:13:46,880 Always control what I would wear, where I would go, what I would do, who would I 200 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:48,300 would talk to, everything. 201 00:13:48,500 --> 00:13:50,080 He would even want to check my phone. 202 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:54,040 And he was just so annoying, super controlling. 203 00:13:54,660 --> 00:13:59,300 And there was nothing you were doing. It was basically all his doing. 204 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:04,740 No, I mean, no, it was just all him. 205 00:14:05,140 --> 00:14:07,880 Like, honestly, I had no issues. I was such a good girlfriend. 206 00:14:08,180 --> 00:14:09,480 You know, like, I... 207 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:13,380 Never did any of that stuff to him. I never was controlling him. I didn't give 208 00:14:13,380 --> 00:14:16,440 fuck what he did, how he cared about what I was doing. 209 00:14:17,780 --> 00:14:18,880 Wasn't that so annoying? 210 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:24,060 Well, I think that he was showing a lot of interest in you. 211 00:14:25,980 --> 00:14:27,520 How long were you together? 212 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:34,680 We were together for about... maybe about six 213 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:35,680 months. 214 00:14:35,950 --> 00:14:38,390 Do you normally have short relationships like that? 215 00:14:38,610 --> 00:14:40,350 Yeah, they never go beyond a year. 216 00:14:40,690 --> 00:14:42,870 And it's always them, like I'm telling you. 217 00:14:43,550 --> 00:14:45,230 It's always them. It's always their fault? 218 00:14:45,450 --> 00:14:48,310 Yeah, it's always their fault. I'm always getting super controlled with 219 00:14:48,310 --> 00:14:52,750 boyfriends. I just cannot deal with them. It just never lasts more than a 220 00:14:52,910 --> 00:14:56,350 So hopefully I can find someone last more than a year. 221 00:14:56,730 --> 00:14:57,730 Yeah. 222 00:14:58,490 --> 00:15:04,330 What about your... You said you had friends back in the town you had been 223 00:15:04,330 --> 00:15:05,330 in. 224 00:15:05,360 --> 00:15:09,320 What about their lives or in relation to yours and your happiness? 225 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:13,200 Well, see, some of my friends get super pissed off because they say, I never 226 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:14,340 have the time for them. 227 00:15:14,740 --> 00:15:19,420 Like, I see them once a month or maybe once every other month. 228 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:23,820 Isn't that enough? And they were like, how come we can't go out for, like, 229 00:15:23,820 --> 00:15:27,600 or for, like, something on the weekend? Like, it always has to be on a day that 230 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:29,620 you're free and you're available. 231 00:15:29,820 --> 00:15:32,300 And I'm like, well, because that's the day I'm free and I'm available. 232 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:33,680 What's the issue? 233 00:15:36,330 --> 00:15:37,710 Right? It's so dumb. 234 00:15:38,470 --> 00:15:43,810 So, is it them always coming up to visit you, or do you go over to them? 235 00:15:44,010 --> 00:15:46,950 Oh, no. They live way too far now, so I always have them come to me. 236 00:15:47,170 --> 00:15:48,170 Okay. Yeah. 237 00:15:48,450 --> 00:15:50,810 Okay. And they usually, like, get a hotel for me. 238 00:15:51,570 --> 00:15:54,770 Do you help with the cost of that, since they're driving up? 239 00:15:55,190 --> 00:15:57,250 No, I'll make food, but that's about it. 240 00:15:57,510 --> 00:15:58,510 Yeah. Okay. 241 00:16:00,210 --> 00:16:01,890 And do you... 242 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:08,220 Are you in any sort of music or athletics or any sort of, do you do any 243 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:09,320 It was school? 244 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,780 Yeah, I was in a school band, and they said I was doing everything wrong. 245 00:16:13,060 --> 00:16:16,300 So I, like, flipped out on them and said, you know what, I don't need to be 246 00:16:16,300 --> 00:16:17,259 your stupid band. 247 00:16:17,260 --> 00:16:18,219 I was in cheer. 248 00:16:18,220 --> 00:16:20,280 They tried to get me from cheer to band. 249 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:22,460 They said I was too preppy for that. 250 00:16:23,020 --> 00:16:24,020 Whatever. 251 00:16:24,860 --> 00:16:27,380 And how long did you do that before you quit? 252 00:16:28,180 --> 00:16:29,180 What, cheer? 253 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:33,400 Yeah. Did it feel like... Well, and you said you quit band as well, right? You 254 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,340 quit both things? Yeah, it only lasted a day. 255 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:36,640 Oh, it was a day? 256 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:40,160 Okay. Yeah, because they said they just couldn't handle my attitude, and I don't 257 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:44,240 know what attitude they were talking about, so... Yeah, I was, like, the best 258 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:48,660 one they had. I put way more effort in a day than any of those people did. 259 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:54,720 Okay. Well, I mean, it's a little hard to find out if you're the best person in 260 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:55,499 one day. 261 00:16:55,500 --> 00:16:56,500 I know I was. 262 00:16:57,220 --> 00:17:00,980 Everybody was just staring at me like I had some problem, and actually they were 263 00:17:00,980 --> 00:17:01,980 jealous of me. 264 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:02,999 Oh, really? 265 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:04,000 Yeah. 266 00:17:07,220 --> 00:17:14,140 And since you're not taking time with athletics or band, do you have 267 00:17:14,140 --> 00:17:15,140 a job? 268 00:17:15,599 --> 00:17:21,099 I do, but they actually let me go really recently, like a week ago. 269 00:17:21,460 --> 00:17:24,560 Okay. I was actually working at a coffee shop. 270 00:17:24,900 --> 00:17:25,900 Okay. 271 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:28,540 And how long did you work there? 272 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:30,520 For a month. 273 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:33,860 Okay. Yeah, just for a month. 274 00:17:35,100 --> 00:17:40,360 And you said they, why did you, let me ask you, why did you want to, why did 275 00:17:40,360 --> 00:17:42,080 apply to a coffee shop? Why did you want that job? 276 00:17:43,020 --> 00:17:47,740 I like their drinks a lot, so I feel like on break I could, like, instead of 277 00:17:47,740 --> 00:17:50,360 having to pay for it, like, I could just get them for free. 278 00:17:50,750 --> 00:17:52,330 Like, on my break. Okay. 279 00:17:52,570 --> 00:17:53,990 And it worked out way better. 280 00:17:54,290 --> 00:17:56,950 So, that's just something I wanted. Plus, I wanted money. 281 00:17:57,630 --> 00:17:58,990 Yeah. Yeah. Okay. 282 00:17:59,210 --> 00:18:03,430 It really wasn't about anything but, like, money and getting free drinks. 283 00:18:03,450 --> 00:18:07,570 why did you need money to help with paying the bills for your parents? Or, 284 00:18:07,570 --> 00:18:08,570 know, why? 285 00:18:09,370 --> 00:18:10,610 I have a lot of loans. 286 00:18:11,190 --> 00:18:14,710 Like, credit loans. So, I wanted to pay that off. I mean... 287 00:18:15,350 --> 00:18:18,710 I had no idea what I was doing with my credit cards, so I kind of maxed them 288 00:18:18,710 --> 00:18:22,390 out, even though I'm still young. But I don't know. 289 00:18:22,750 --> 00:18:23,750 Yeah. Yeah. 290 00:18:25,050 --> 00:18:27,670 So wait, but you don't work there anymore? 291 00:18:28,050 --> 00:18:29,850 I don't, no. What happened? 292 00:18:30,450 --> 00:18:34,870 They let me go because I was eating on my break, like all the food that they 293 00:18:34,870 --> 00:18:38,350 had, and they were getting pissed off. But you were eating their food, the food 294 00:18:38,350 --> 00:18:39,350 they sell? 295 00:18:39,510 --> 00:18:40,830 Yeah, like bakery items. 296 00:18:41,410 --> 00:18:42,510 You didn't pay for them? 297 00:18:43,149 --> 00:18:45,630 No, because I thought since I work there, it's free. 298 00:18:46,470 --> 00:18:47,930 Like, at least somewhat free. 299 00:18:48,130 --> 00:18:52,830 And they didn't... No, they were like, we have to let you go. This is like the 300 00:18:52,830 --> 00:18:54,030 fourth time you're doing this. 301 00:18:54,510 --> 00:18:56,590 And so I'm guessing they had warned you before. 302 00:18:57,070 --> 00:18:58,070 They warned me. 303 00:18:58,190 --> 00:19:01,830 And why did you... Because I didn't take them... I thought they were just 304 00:19:01,830 --> 00:19:03,870 joking, like you can't have any or something. 305 00:19:05,530 --> 00:19:06,670 That's all I thought it was. 306 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:11,000 Yeah, they, like, still let me go because they knew I was going to kill it 307 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:13,720 that job. I was way better than anybody there. 308 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:18,280 So, wait, so they let you go because... They knew I was going to kill it in that 309 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:21,500 job. They knew I was going to do so well. I mean, I was the best one 310 00:19:21,780 --> 00:19:26,440 so... I don't understand why they would fire you if they thought you were the 311 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:31,360 best. Me either. I was the only one doing way more than any other people 312 00:19:31,740 --> 00:19:32,980 They just hated on me. 313 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:36,780 Just because you're... you and... 314 00:19:37,020 --> 00:19:40,900 Because I'm so new, and I did so good, and other people had to be there for 315 00:19:40,900 --> 00:19:42,980 years and work to where I'm getting. 316 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,020 They saw that I was super successful in the job, so. 317 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:50,720 Yeah, they just caught me eating, like, off the bakery items, and that was, 318 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:54,500 like, the only way they wanted to let me go. They're like, that's it. That's the 319 00:19:54,500 --> 00:19:55,500 final straw. 320 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:57,420 So they used that as, like, an excuse. 321 00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:59,960 They used that as an excuse to let me go. 322 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:04,420 But it's only because they loved me. That's it. They really thought I was 323 00:20:04,420 --> 00:20:05,420 to do well. 324 00:20:07,850 --> 00:20:13,270 Okay, so are you, have you applied to have another job? Are you looking for 325 00:20:13,270 --> 00:20:14,270 another? 326 00:20:15,270 --> 00:20:19,450 Yeah, I was looking for like another coffee shop job, see how that works. 327 00:20:19,810 --> 00:20:22,770 See if they have like other policies that I could work around with. 328 00:20:23,550 --> 00:20:25,990 And people that probably don't hate on me as much. 329 00:20:26,530 --> 00:20:29,930 Okay. I really feel like ever since I moved here. 330 00:20:30,639 --> 00:20:34,380 Everybody hates me. Nobody likes me. Nobody wants to get along with me. 331 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:38,960 I can't keep anything going on for, like, longer than a day or two. 332 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:40,160 It's kind of annoying. 333 00:20:41,060 --> 00:20:44,100 And you think that they, like, they have it out for you? 334 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:48,560 Yeah, they do. Like, ever since I moved here, they're like, fuck that new girl. 335 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,020 Like, we're going to ruin things for her. We're going to make everything 336 00:20:52,020 --> 00:20:54,180 shitty for her. And that's what I've been feeling. 337 00:20:54,500 --> 00:20:57,260 But, I don't know. 338 00:20:58,120 --> 00:21:00,080 Why do you think that they're doing that? 339 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:05,800 Because they're envious of me. They just, like, hate that I'm super pretty. 340 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:11,060 hate that I'm super good at everything that I do. So that's what I think it is. 341 00:21:11,100 --> 00:21:13,440 I don't know what else their issue is. What do you think? 342 00:21:14,340 --> 00:21:20,800 Well, I mean, I don't... I can't imagine an entire town hating on you. That 343 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,100 doesn't seem very plausible. 344 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:24,959 They do. 345 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:29,340 I mean, jobs that I barely just started working in, people that I just met, 346 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:33,860 girls that I met in school, my parents now are turning on me. It doesn't make 347 00:21:33,860 --> 00:21:39,580 any sense. Like, why is this all happening all at once towards me? Like, 348 00:21:39,580 --> 00:21:40,559 moved here. 349 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:41,560 That's it. 350 00:21:41,660 --> 00:21:45,940 Right, but I mean, you have been here a year. It's not like, it's not like this 351 00:21:45,940 --> 00:21:48,820 is a, I would say maybe if you've been here a week and you were having these 352 00:21:48,820 --> 00:21:50,960 emotions and feelings, possibly it would be. 353 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:55,380 attributed to the new move and the, you know, feeling uneasy about the new 354 00:21:55,380 --> 00:21:59,520 environment. But thinking about this way for like a year after you've lived here 355 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:04,400 kind of makes me think maybe it's something more to do with you and the 356 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,560 view yourself and the way you view the situation. 357 00:22:07,020 --> 00:22:09,100 No, I really feel like people are out to get me. 358 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:13,940 Like they don't like me here in this town. They want me to go back to my 359 00:22:13,940 --> 00:22:14,940 hometown. 360 00:22:15,180 --> 00:22:16,980 They're so done with me. 361 00:22:17,220 --> 00:22:21,320 Yeah, it's only been a year, right? So it doesn't make any sense that they 362 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:22,320 go after me. 363 00:22:23,100 --> 00:22:24,100 I don't understand. 364 00:22:24,740 --> 00:22:26,440 Yeah. That's why I came here. 365 00:22:26,740 --> 00:22:30,900 So, I mean, what are your solutions here? You've just been sitting here 366 00:22:30,900 --> 00:22:33,740 at me and just kind of agreeing with everything I'm doing. 367 00:22:35,180 --> 00:22:40,500 Well, I'm just allowing you time to talk. Normally with sessions, that's 368 00:22:41,050 --> 00:22:45,470 that patients need to do is to vent and talk and work through their problems. 369 00:22:47,010 --> 00:22:48,590 I can't. 370 00:22:49,010 --> 00:22:53,590 No, I feel like you really don't believe me on anything I'm saying. You probably 371 00:22:53,590 --> 00:22:56,790 agree with these people. Like this girl's a nut job or something. 372 00:22:57,110 --> 00:23:00,570 That's how you're looking at me as. No, no, no, no, not at all. 373 00:23:02,390 --> 00:23:06,870 So I do have something that I think specifically as I listen to you talk and 374 00:23:06,870 --> 00:23:10,330 describe your situation, I have a method. 375 00:23:12,419 --> 00:23:18,680 That's an exercise that I think you would definitely benefit from. I think 376 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:24,620 it's something that is untraditional in method, but I 377 00:23:24,620 --> 00:23:28,820 think that it is something that would definitely benefit you. 378 00:23:30,180 --> 00:23:34,720 But how are you certain that this is going to benefit you? Oh, I'm not 379 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:35,960 but I'm confident. 380 00:23:36,260 --> 00:23:39,760 I'm confident with your situation and your... 381 00:23:41,090 --> 00:23:46,270 attitude and your mannerisms and what you're telling me that this particular 382 00:23:46,270 --> 00:23:51,450 exercise is something that we should give it a try today. 383 00:23:51,990 --> 00:23:55,250 I do think we should try it today. I don't think we should wait until the 384 00:23:55,250 --> 00:23:56,250 session. 385 00:23:57,090 --> 00:24:01,850 But it's something where you're going to feel uncomfortable. 386 00:24:02,670 --> 00:24:06,730 You're going to feel a little uneasy, a little... 387 00:24:08,650 --> 00:24:13,930 Those sort of feelings. But that's something that is one of your problems. 388 00:24:13,930 --> 00:24:15,210 just can't see it. 389 00:24:15,450 --> 00:24:21,370 And so if we work through getting past that with this exercise, then that will 390 00:24:21,370 --> 00:24:22,630 help you significantly. 391 00:24:23,490 --> 00:24:28,930 So, I mean, are you sure this is the right situation for this? I mean, I 392 00:24:28,930 --> 00:24:29,930 feel uncomfortable. 393 00:24:30,150 --> 00:24:36,910 Well, this is the right exercise for you. There's really no doubt about 394 00:24:36,910 --> 00:24:42,740 that. But I need you to commit to it because you're going to feel 395 00:24:42,740 --> 00:24:46,540 and you're not going to want to continue with things just like you do in life 396 00:24:46,540 --> 00:24:50,340 when you're quitting everything, boyfriends or your jobs or band or 397 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:55,100 But I need you to commit before we start that when things do get uncomfortable, 398 00:24:55,300 --> 00:24:57,300 you're going to power through this exercise. 399 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:02,840 You know, it's just one hour, you know, in this room that we have where we're 400 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:06,360 talking. I need you to just commit for that short amount of time. 401 00:25:06,970 --> 00:25:11,570 And not turn back or run from the situation. 402 00:25:14,210 --> 00:25:15,330 I mean, I guess. 403 00:25:16,070 --> 00:25:19,810 Well, I don't want to say I guess. It's a yes or no. Are you committed to it or 404 00:25:19,810 --> 00:25:22,490 not? Do you want to get better? Do you want to get past your situation or not? 405 00:25:22,490 --> 00:25:23,490 do, yes. 406 00:25:23,710 --> 00:25:25,410 Okay. I'm committed to this. 407 00:25:26,070 --> 00:25:27,450 Okay, why don't you stand up for me? 408 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:39,440 Just relax. 409 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:43,920 Just close your eyes. 410 00:25:45,580 --> 00:25:49,060 Let me move over here a little bit, just so I can be right there. 411 00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,400 Is it parted? Yes, we've already begun. 412 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:11,620 Do you need to be touching me like this? 413 00:26:12,620 --> 00:26:18,020 Yes, I do actually, because a lot of your attention is in your unease with 414 00:26:18,020 --> 00:26:20,980 yourself, whether you realize it or not. 415 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:23,800 Relax your hands. 416 00:26:36,460 --> 00:26:37,580 Keep your eyes closed. 417 00:26:38,340 --> 00:26:39,340 Just relax. 418 00:26:53,649 --> 00:26:54,810 You are very attractive. 419 00:26:56,770 --> 00:27:02,230 I need 420 00:27:02,230 --> 00:27:08,770 you to be quiet. 421 00:27:10,330 --> 00:27:13,130 And just go with it. You said you were going to be committed. 422 00:28:09,230 --> 00:28:10,370 Can you share it with us? 423 00:28:12,110 --> 00:28:13,730 Yes, I know exactly what I'm doing. 424 00:28:49,420 --> 00:28:55,000 Interesting that you're not wearing your hands there. I usually never do. 425 00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:58,980 All right. 426 00:28:59,860 --> 00:29:00,860 I'm not done. 427 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,600 I should just sit here. 428 00:29:04,500 --> 00:29:05,500 Sit down. 429 00:29:41,450 --> 00:29:42,389 Are you committed? 430 00:29:42,390 --> 00:29:43,570 Yeah. Getting better? 431 00:29:44,530 --> 00:29:48,890 A little bit. 432 00:30:12,270 --> 00:30:13,790 I want you to take this off from me. 433 00:30:15,670 --> 00:30:16,670 All the way up? 434 00:30:16,930 --> 00:30:17,930 Way up. 435 00:30:29,830 --> 00:30:32,630 Would you go ahead and lie back on that couch? 436 00:30:44,970 --> 00:30:45,970 Unclutch your legs. 437 00:30:48,710 --> 00:30:49,710 Like this? 438 00:30:49,970 --> 00:30:50,970 Mm -hmm. 439 00:30:53,170 --> 00:30:55,050 And be comfortable with who you are. 440 00:30:55,510 --> 00:30:59,070 You need to stop running and quitting everything. 441 00:31:02,390 --> 00:31:03,390 Okay. 442 00:31:17,420 --> 00:31:21,420 Tell me if the situation gets close to you, you run away. 443 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:24,400 You think so? 444 00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:25,739 I don't know. 445 00:31:25,740 --> 00:31:27,760 You just told me the case. 446 00:32:12,110 --> 00:32:15,070 I'm just laying back like this. That's good. 447 00:32:25,290 --> 00:32:26,490 Are you 448 00:32:26,490 --> 00:32:34,310 sure 449 00:32:34,310 --> 00:32:35,310 I can touch this? 450 00:32:50,540 --> 00:32:51,540 Okay. 451 00:35:43,450 --> 00:35:44,450 Stand up. 452 00:35:52,030 --> 00:35:53,430 Would you go ahead and take that top off? 453 00:36:40,910 --> 00:36:43,030 Nice and slow, just like that. 454 00:36:44,050 --> 00:36:45,050 Okay. 455 00:36:47,630 --> 00:36:49,730 Everything you're doing, like you're doing quickly. 456 00:36:50,710 --> 00:36:52,330 Get through to the next thing. 457 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:12,600 Like that. Good. 458 00:37:19,980 --> 00:37:24,900 It's really helping me too. 459 00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:35,760 I need you to admit that sometimes you're bad. 460 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:39,020 You think so? 461 00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,220 I need you to admit it. 462 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:43,360 I need you to say it. 463 00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:46,500 I am pretty bad. I'm not going to lie to you. 464 00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:49,360 I'm pretty naughty. 465 00:37:49,980 --> 00:37:51,340 Yeah? Yeah. 466 00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,060 I get really dirty sometimes. 467 00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:12,440 Just like that. 468 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:15,080 A 469 00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:27,020 lot 470 00:38:27,020 --> 00:38:28,400 of pre -cum coming out. 471 00:38:31,660 --> 00:38:34,360 Let's just keep pressing ahead of that clot. 472 00:38:52,759 --> 00:38:55,320 You're getting really hard. 473 00:38:55,720 --> 00:38:56,720 Yeah. 474 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:15,560 Do you like doing that? I do. 475 00:39:16,300 --> 00:39:19,560 What do you find? It's just a bit all over your cock. 476 00:39:24,020 --> 00:39:25,520 Did I say you could do that? 477 00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:27,560 No. 478 00:39:28,260 --> 00:39:30,460 But you kind of want to. Is that okay? 479 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:32,440 What do you want to do? 480 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:34,160 Suck your cock. 481 00:40:00,170 --> 00:40:01,170 Mmm. 482 00:40:31,270 --> 00:40:32,610 Look at me. 483 00:40:34,570 --> 00:40:40,210 Just say you're bad again. 484 00:40:42,290 --> 00:40:43,670 No, say you're bad. 485 00:40:43,910 --> 00:40:44,930 I'm super bad. 486 00:40:45,410 --> 00:40:46,690 I'm bad bad. 487 00:41:12,430 --> 00:41:13,430 Or pictures. 488 00:41:13,530 --> 00:41:14,530 Yeah. 489 00:41:16,910 --> 00:41:17,910 Like this one? 490 00:41:18,110 --> 00:41:21,190 Mm -hmm. I love hearing that on your cock. 491 00:41:23,050 --> 00:41:25,070 Is that from the hard cock? 492 00:41:25,350 --> 00:41:28,190 Yeah. Just this rock hard cock. 493 00:41:29,910 --> 00:41:31,530 Is that from Moe? 494 00:43:06,940 --> 00:43:10,320 Yeah, just like that. Yeah, just like that. 495 00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,700 Your doll's just fucking slapping my hand. 496 00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:18,400 Nice and hard. 497 00:50:47,850 --> 00:50:48,850 Thank you. 498 00:53:50,510 --> 00:53:51,870 so you don't have to rush anything, right? 499 00:53:52,070 --> 00:53:54,110 Okay. Yeah, you're right. 500 00:53:54,390 --> 00:53:55,390 There you go. 501 00:54:01,990 --> 00:54:07,450 Are you bad? 502 00:54:08,810 --> 00:54:11,030 Yeah, I'm really bad. 503 00:54:14,650 --> 00:54:15,650 Say it again. 504 00:54:15,670 --> 00:54:17,070 I'm super bad. 505 00:54:17,590 --> 00:54:18,770 Say it again. I'm so bad. 506 00:54:20,270 --> 00:54:21,270 Such a bad girl. 507 00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:47,520 I'm going to make this fix it. Yeah. 508 00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:51,040 Oh, fuck it. 509 00:57:26,670 --> 00:57:27,670 Bye. 510 00:58:19,150 --> 00:58:20,150 Yes, you do. 511 00:58:58,690 --> 00:58:59,690 I don't care. 512 01:00:54,570 --> 01:00:55,570 it for you 513 01:01:50,380 --> 01:01:51,380 You've got to get me to come. 514 01:02:29,930 --> 01:02:30,930 Very good for a session. 515 01:02:31,350 --> 01:02:32,350 Very well. 516 01:02:38,650 --> 01:02:40,090 I'll see you back here next week. 517 01:02:40,310 --> 01:02:41,310 Yeah. 518 01:02:42,230 --> 01:02:43,230 Can't wait. 519 01:02:44,870 --> 01:02:49,950 Now in between today and next week, I want you to be nice to people. 520 01:02:50,630 --> 01:02:51,790 Give people a chance. 521 01:02:52,610 --> 01:02:53,870 Be open to being wrong. 522 01:02:54,770 --> 01:02:56,630 Okay. I'll do that. 523 01:03:04,270 --> 01:03:06,670 Go ahead and grab your stuff because there's a bathroom in the hallway. 524 01:03:07,630 --> 01:03:08,630 Okay. 525 01:03:13,850 --> 01:03:16,010 And talk to Betty about booking you next session. 526 01:03:16,490 --> 01:03:17,490 Okay.